Step 1Make the most of
your career or find a new one. If the career track you are presently
following leaves you a little less than thrilled, change it. If the
position for senior copy writer suddenly becomes available, go for it.
If your dream is to be a writer, don't dream, write. The idea is not to
wait for the sudden appearance of "Mr. Wonderful" to make you happy or
give you confidence. True self confidence comes from personal
achievement, and in today's competitive world, personal achievement is
often defined by having a successful career. So if your 9 to 5 job is
starting to feel like 9 to infinity, then it's time to kick that job to
the curb and find a new one.
Step 2
Take the time to decorate your living space the way you always wanted. Make the space you are living in as perfect as you can. Do not deny yourself that antique white Victorian lace comforter thinking that you would rather buy it when you have a conjugal bed to put it on. Remember, this is your retreat from the outside world and whatever items catch your eye should immediately occupy a loving place in your home without a moment's thought or hesitation.
Step 3Look for quality
friendships, not quantity. Friends are the people that add color and
excitement to our lives. Unfortunately, it is in times of sorrow or need
that most friendships are severely tested. Therefore, when choosing
someone as a potential pal, it is best to remember that a friend is more
than just someone to hang out with. True friends give you the nurturing
when you need to grow and the courage when it's best to stay the same.
Step 4Think of dating
as an adventure. The secret to happy dating is to not have any
expectations. Do not think of this man as a potential lover, potential
husband, potential friend or potential anything. Just think of him as
someone that you have never met before and, just like Mata Hari, your
goal is to learn all you can about him. Then slowly go on from there and
soon you just may find yourself to be pleasantly surprised.
Step 5Have fun with
your appearance. Being single is the one time when you can change your
appearance as often as some people change their underwear and you don't
have to be concerned with someone else's opinion. So, if you are a
brunette and always wanted to try life as a blonde, now is the time to
do it. If you have long flowing hair and want to try a short, sassy cut,
then run to that barbershop and tell him to clip away. If the results
are less than wonderful, no one will be there to remind you and no one
will ever have to know -- that's why they invented hats. If, however,
you turn out looking absolutely fabulous, then go out there and paint
the town.
Step 6Control your
spending habits. As a single woman, you only have yourself to rely on
for financial support, so getting a handle on your expenses is vital.
For many women, the idea of curbing their spending habits seems as
unlikely as marrying Johnny Depp. However, all you really need is the
determination to pay all your present bills, the awareness of how you
spend your money every month and the discipline to think before you
purchase. Once you master these skills, you'll see your bank account
filling up in no time.
Step 7Indulge in some
private time. Private time not only allows you to recoup your energy,
but if spent properly, you can make yourself feel quite pampered. Before
you can "take care of business," you need to take care of yourself. Set
aside at least an hour per day to do so. Some ideal private time
"escapes" include: taking a long bubble bath, listening to your favorite
CD over and over or treating yourself to breakfast in bed.
Step 8Work that body. A
healthy body is the key to looking and feeling beautiful. Nothing
encourages a beautiful body more than exercise. Along with toning you
physically, exercise also tones you mentally. Even after a mild workout,
creativity levels soar -- all the more reason to exercise. So whether
you prefer low-impact aerobics or a 12-mile jog, get moving.
Step 9Expand your
horizons. In today's fast-paced society, knowledge is the way to get
ahead. And nowhere is knowledge more beneficial than in the lives of
single women. Whether learning about the latest tax shelter or checking
out the latest art exhibit, the more you know, the more productive your
life can be. Of course another good reason for acquiring knowledge is
the way you will feel both fulfilled and confident. So read newspapers,
watch at least two news shows per week, go to a museum or take a class.
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